I grew up being told I was too much.
Too shy, too energetic, too talkative, too inquisitive, too friendly, too trusting. And since my parents and teachers reinforced it, I believed it.
I also started noticing that when I said or did something – anything, really – that not everyone liked it.
I never said or did anything mean, but I was always truthful. That’s what my parents taught me. However, now I was too honest.
It took me a lot of years to realize that some people don’t like the truth, no matter how soft your words are.
Along with being too much, I was also too sensitive. I believed that if some people didn’t like what I said or did, then they didn’t like me. Then I became too self-conscious, and too focused on being liked.
I tried harder and harder to be likeable – the best friend, the best wife, the best employee, the best boss… And it never worked 100% of the time.
Then I grew up and took what my mother used to tell me to heart…
“You can please some of the people, all of the time.
And all of the people, some of the time.
But you can’t please all of the people, all of the time.”
That’s when I realized it’s nuts to let someone else decide who I am, who I should be or could be, what I believe, or how I feel.
I started really looking inward to find out for myself – what I like, who I like, what I believe, what I want in life, and what makes me happy?
What about you?
- Where did you get your ideas about what is right and wrong?
- What do you like and dislike?
- What makes you happy?
- Who are you? Describe your own personality traits.
- Do you like who you have become?
You might have gotten your initial ideas and personality traits, just like I did – from other people. You watched. You listened. You absorbed and programmed your mind without even knowing it.
That’s how it normally starts as you internalize those beliefs and then play them out in your everyday life.
At some point – sooner rather than later – you will understand that you get to decide what you believe and what you want out of life. It’s about you, not what other people think about you.
Making those decisions is the most powerful thing you can ever do, because it changes who you are (or rather, who you thought you were). And it sets the stage for how limitless you choose to be.
Most people don’t know they can do this. As a result, they still believe what they’ve heard when they were very young. And they still operate from those beliefs today.
If you’re intent on learning the real “you”, your first project should be to create a new set of beliefs about who you are and what matters to you. Establish your own set of standards for your life.
Find out who you truly are and who you want to be.
1 – Think of what really makes you smile, deep down inside. What makes your heart sing? An example would be that you want to impact millions of people and help others.
2 – Then think of why you aren’t doing this. An example would be that you don’t want to charge much for your services, but you need to pay the bills.
3 – Last – realize that you deserve what makes you happy and create and design a way to do what you really want, based on what makes you happy.
If I continued to believe what my family and teachers told me about my personality, I wouldn’t be helping lots of people change their lives with their horses all over the world. I wouldn’t be fulfilling my heart’s desires.
Instead, I would probably still be too shy and too introverted to be doing what really makes me happy. And I wouldn’t be seeing the incredible results my students are having with their horses which warms my heart.
Evolution is about being who we really want to be. There is always room to grow, develop, and blossom.
However, the truth is that creating what you really want out of life can be taxing. Most people resist it. Blow it off. Downplay its importance. That’s why most people don’t do it.
But it is truly worth it. You are truly worth it!
And I know you can do it.
That’s just the beginning. If you are up to it, you can create your own happy life where you are doing and being the person that you have always wanted to be.
This is the “BIG PICTURE”.
But you can start small and start this same process but with your horse. Let your horse be your teacher and work together to get what you both deserve.
Get what you’ve always wanted with your horse.
- Where did you get your beliefs about horses?
- Are they yours or someone else’s?
- Are you happy with your current horsemanship skills?
- Do your beliefs about working with your horse match what’s in your heart?
- Are you happy with the results you are getting with your horse?
- Do you think your horse is happy?
1 – What about your horse makes your heart sing? An example would be when you hear your horse whinny to you as you approach.
2 – If you’re not happy with your horse’s behavior, what’s going on? An example would be that your horse pulls all the time and doesn’t listen to you.
3 – Last – know that you and your horse deserve to be happy together and to do things as best friends would. Then create and design a way to do what you really want with your horse.
I believe in you and I am here for you and your horse.
If you want to chat about what you really want with your horse, what you can do to get the desired results, and how you can start…give me a call.
I am offering a free 30-45 minute call to talk about what’s going on with you and your horse, diagnose the issue, and see if I can help you.
Just click here to schedule a call with me.
What makes my heart sing is to help other horse people, like me, get the results they dream of with their horse. It’s my way of giving back for the lessons my horses have taught me.
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