I’m not sure if your journey with horses has been quite like mine. But I’m guessing it’s safe to say that you’ve tried learning what you could to get to where you are now.
And like me, you’ve probably gone through some periods of trial and error, kept some of the ideas you’ve learned, and tossed a few of them out the window.
However, here is one thing that I’m sure of: No one has, keeps, or continues to have a good relationship with their horse by accident. It takes work, love, and patience.
Everything we have accomplished with our horses, including me, we chose.
The work is learning and understanding you were always the chooser. And then learning your power of co-creation.
No matter where you are in your horsemanship skills or your journey with horses, you can always “start from here”.
You know the old cliché – “Today is the first day of the rest of your life”. That’s today. No matter what has happened in the past, or even yesterday, you can start fresh if you want to.
You choose where to start, when to start, and how to start each day. There are so many choices that we make every day. The best one is to be with your horse and cherish those moments together.
Being in the present moment, relaxing, and loving the time you spend together is precious. Your horse loves it just as much as you do.
That’s why co-creating your journey, your adventures, together can be so much fun!
I’d even bet that your horse would love to spend more time with you and that he/she really enjoys your visits. Just being with your horse, working or playing, can be enjoyable for both of you as long as you do it together, making the decisions together as a herd.
It doesn’t do you any good to look at your past mistakes, worry if you are going to repeat them, or fret about things that happened that you can’t change.
So isn’t it past time to design your next steps with your horse with intention? What is your end goal? How does that look? How does that feel? What makes you happy?
What does your horse think about what you want? What would he/she like? How can you be a better person for your horse? What makes your horse happy?
We all have ideas, habits, thought patterns, and stories that need to be left behind. That’s called growing up, developing new skills, and learning better habits.
Your horse does this too by shedding his fear memories, learning to trust you, and building a better relationship.
We also all have energy, feelings, connections, and ways of being that need to be called into the present moment. Some things were released and others were held onto.
My brother always said, “Don’t Major on the Minors”. And trust me… that is easier said than done, at least for me. Sometimes I have to remind myself of that.
When something goes awry in my training and my horse doesn’t follow my “agenda” for the day, I have to remember to throw out the agenda and just “be” with my horse. Watching, listening, learning.
I have to pause, breathe, and get back to the present moment. What is he doing? What does he want to do? How can I take what is happening at this very moment and make the best out of it?
Who will you be when it comes to your horse? What is his perception of you or your perception of him? What do you want right now and what’s best for the two of you and your relationship?
You get to choose. So choose wisely.
It’s time we get honest. It’s time we get co-creative. It’s time we get intentional.
Who do you want to be in your horse’s eyes and what type of relationship do you want to have with your horse? Where are you going?
Here are some tips to help you co-create…
- Stop the “monkey brain” where you can’t stop thinking about everything else in your life.
- Get focused and intentional with your thoughts when you are with your horse. It’s only the two of you for however long you are together.
- Stop slipping into the “trainer’s mind” where you are trying to adhere to an agenda and being rigid with your routine.
- Get centered and relaxed. Go with the flow and enjoy the journey.
- Stop getting frustrated when you don’t get the results you want, when you want them, and then forcing your agenda on your horse.
- Learn to pause, be patient, and go with the flow. Listen to your horse more.
- Stop making all the decisions on your own. Your agenda shouldn’t be one-sided.
- Allow your horse to have a say in what you do, how you do it, where you go, and what’s on the flexible agenda for the day.
I want to show you exactly what I do when I choose to be co-creative with my horses. I can walk you through my RC3 process inside my
Personal Coaching Program.
When you join this program, we’re going to look at every area of your life with your horses and how it’s impacting your desired results. We also discuss and map out a flexible agenda that is individualized for you and your horse.
Mapping out a co-creative process to develop exactly what you want to accomplish with your horse. This is an in-depth program, reviewing, releasing, learning, and choosing what you want for you and your horse. This also includes what your horse wants and needs.
You get the horse of your dreams and your horse gets the person of his/her dreams.
We’ll be together on a private weekly call and you’ll have access to me daily via texts and emails, whenever you need.
You will have exercises to complete and games you can do with your horse each day. Plus 1:1 live coaching to help you figure it all out, create your desired future, and activate a new relationship with your horse.
And I’m with you through the entire process to help you get the end result that you personally desire and that makes your horse happy.
Everyone is different and I want you to gain the success you desire.
I am so jazzed for what is about to come through for you and your horse. The future is endless and beautiful.
I cannot wait for what we will co-create together and for what you and your horse can create together.
Here is a link to my Personal Coaching Program to learn more about it.
Let me know in the Comments section what are some things that you have co-created with your horse.