3 Realizations to Reach your Goals

A wise friend once told me…

“I may not yet be exactly where I want to be… but looking back at my life, I’m glad I’ve come this far.”

And ever since, I’ve felt nothing but gratitude for where I am today. I feel this way about where I am now in my life as well as where I am now with my horses.

I’m also very pleased to hear this from my students as well.

Sometimes, I get so overwhelmed, I cry.

When people write me, testimonials come in, and when I see students using the tools I created to help them reach their dreams with their horses, I’m just in awe.

It’s an honor.

I’m not perfect. But I do one thing really well: I simplify the way into your horse’s heart

Connection = Communication = Companionship <– My personal mantra with horses.

I will never tell you to do things because some supposed expert said you should. I only teach what has worked for me and my horses from my own personal experience and my many years of trial and error.

I will always bring you back to being led by your own inner guidance.

Your desire to do what’s best for your horse. Your desire to create a beautiful life together. Your desire to reach your goals.

I will always have you check in with what you truly want and be guided by what you feel moved to do.

Because horsemanship and being with your horse should feel good. And be fun. And make the two of you happy to be together.

I empower you to get out there and create what you want, on your terms.

Here are three realizations I believe have been instrumental in helping me empower hundreds of people, and create a life I could once only dream of:

Realization #1: Success is about your resourcefulness.

Many people believe that they need to have a trained horse and have completed advanced courses and training clinics before they can even begin to think about making their dreams a reality

But this couldn’t be further from the truth.

For example, when I realized that what the so called “experts” were telling me didn’t “feel” right to me, I had nowhere else to go and there was no one around to help mentor me.

But rather than let my lack of resources stop me, I saw it as a challenge to get creative.

Specifically, I decided to put my fears behind me, and instead, look to my horse to teach me what I needed to know to get to where I wanted to be, which leads me to –

Realization #2: Don’t let “I don’t know how” stop you from learning how.

There’s a quote that I love by a Vietnamese monk named Thich Nhat Hanh:

“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.”

In my experience, what usually stops people from pursuing their goals and dreams is that stepping out and trying something new feels unfamiliar and scary…

And so – even though they may not be totally happy with where they currently are in life – they subconsciously do what they can to stay there, because they find comfort in the predictability.

If you’ve ever felt this fear (or perhaps you’re feeling it now), one of the best ways to overcome it, so that you can spring into action, is to surround yourself with the right support network, which leads me to –

Realization #3: Create a positive “Circle of Support”

Want to take your connection, communication, and companionship with your horse to the next level? You don’t have to have all of the answers, or even a well-defined crystal clear ABC plan.

But it is downright crucial that you surround yourself with people who will mentor you and support you to stay in action and in the right direction to reach your dreams.

I call this your “Circle of Support”.

The people, and horses, you choose to surround yourself with can either inspire you to create new exciting things for yourself, or they can cripple your success by making you doubt who you are and what you’re capable of.

For example, if you are a beginner with horses, don’t start out with a wild stallion that has personality issues.

Push the Easy Button!

You’ll hear me say that a lot. Life is hard enough, so let’s try to make it easier when we can. Set yourself up for success, not failure.

This means being mindful of who you spend your time with and how.

Your future happiness and that of your horse really does depend on it.

As one of my students, Pamela said, “I’m really starting to understand the power of “paciencia y fe” (patience and faith).”

I hope this little reminder of what has helped me in the past, also helps you and your horse reach your dream goals.