Is it time for a Gwyneth moment with your horse?


I’ve just got back from a couple of week’s vacation in California visiting my family.

I say vacation as if it sounds like a rest but it was far from it, we were non stop every day. I need a vacation from my vacation 🙂

So, the last couple of days have been spent getting back into the swing of things again slowly as well as doing the necessary such as unpacking, laundry, and grocery shopping.

I naturally made the time though to go see my boys, Jazz, and Apollo, who are both doing fine.

If you’ve been following me for a while then you will recall that I very suddenly and tragically lost my 10-year old, D’Artagnan, a couple of weeks back.

A few days before he passed away I’d wanted to do something creative with some of his hair and that of my other horses that comes off in spring.

They shed so much hair at springtime and it goes all over the place, or more precisely all over me regardless of what I’m wearing. I’m not complaining though, I love it actually.

I thought of a really cool way I could use it though to help other creatures and so I took some of the body, mane and tail hair, and put it in a plastic bag and brought it home. I then put it in an empty water bottle that I had cut a few holes in and hung it near my bird feeder.

Yesterday I just happened to sit down for a few moments on my porch when I looked up and noticed that my little birdhouse had something sticking out of it. When I looked closer I noticed that a wren had put some of my horse’s hair inside for its newly built nest.

It was so nice to see that D’Artagnan’s hair was being used and was able to help new baby birds coming into this world. Knowing that his life was actually going to help another animal’s life yet to come was also a blessing. The circle of life continues.

Changing the subject a bit, have you seen the movie ‘Sliding Doors’ with Gwyneth Paltrow?

The film alternates between two storylines, showing two paths the central character’s life could take depending on whether or not she catches a train.

I won’t go into any more detail than that in case you haven’t seen it because it’s worth watching.

The point of mentioning it though is to illustrate how differently our lives work out when we make different decisions.

I’m sure you can think back to moments in your life when a single decision changed the whole course of your life – like me deciding to go out on the lunch date I told you about.

If I hadn’t followed that feeling, and instead listened to my insecure mind, I’d probably still be in the exact same place I was back then (or worse).

I wanted to share this with you because I understand that you might be feeling the same way about reaching out to speak to me about the issues you’re having with your horse.

It pains me to hear it when people tell me they’ve been struggling with the same problem for months and sometimes years.

I ask them sometimes, “How long do you want to go on banging your head against that same brick wall, over and over?”

This may sound harsh but it’s meant to jolt them into actually seeing the reality of the situation they find themselves in.

They don’t like what they see happening.

They don’t know what to do about it.

They feel powerless to stop it.

And yet they carry on living with it because…???

They often don’t even know.

The sad reality is they’ve almost reached the point of learned helplessness. In other words, they’ve pretty much given up.

Please don’t let this happen to you.

So if you’ve been struggling with a particular problem with your horse for longer than you’d prefer, please get in touch by clicking here.

The calls are absolutely free so what do you have to lose?

But going deeper than that…

Follow your feeling.

Does your heart want a life of joy and love and connection with your horse…

…but your head struggles with self-doubt and whether or not you can or should take the next step?

My advice is to listen to your heart.

And if your heart is saying “not right now”, that’s fine too (just make sure it is your heart speaking and not your fears and insecurities wearing a mask!).

Often our mind is looking for control and certainty.

But following your heart means letting go of that control and dipping into the unknown.

The magic happens in that place.

The unknown.

The place where “coincidences” occur and it’s only when you look back with awe that you see you could never have planned all that has happened even if you tried.

Let go of control and follow your heart rather than trying to grip on tightly following your defensive mind which is fearful because of the past.

I still do.

Every day.

Letting go can change everything.

Look back at your life and see where one decision to say yes instead of no made a huge difference in your life.  Think about where you really want to be right now or in one year and make that choice to chase your dream.  Isn’t it worth it?

What does your heart say?

What does your horse say?




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  • So true.Would be so wonderful to live this way.?

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